Why does my 12 year old son hate me? Am I that terrible of mom? Where did I go wrong? All these questions and hundreds more crossed my mind this past weekend as my son had a huge fit in the car. For whatever reason he has been angry since his dad and I split up about 9 years ago. Then we moved 150 miles away from his dad 6 years ago and I'm sure that did not help. I remarried and he inheritated 3 step siblings. Not easy for any child to handle. Well as he gets older he gets more mad. He is in counsling but not sure how much that is working. He has decided that he want to go live with his dad on a fulltime basis. Oh how sad that makes me. However, the more I think about it the more I think maybe it is for the best. They are very close and he seems to think that weekend dad and fulltime dad are the same. They are not. Dad is now going to have to have rules and bedtimes and I can't wait to see how he reacts to that.
I have figured out that my son doesn't hate me, I'm not a terrible mom, and I've done nothing wrong. It's just the time in my sons life where he needs to be with his dad more. Boys need their dads when they get that age and I want my son to have his dad and be able to spend time with him. However, not seeing my son everyday is going to be the hardest thing I've ever had to do.
How do us moms compare to a boys dad? We don't we just love them and know that they are always a mommas boy.
Thursday, March 26, 2009
Monday, March 16, 2009
More Money?
Well I went to sign the younger girls up for cheering on Saturday, which cost us $55, and find out that the Ex owes $53 from last years cheering. And if its not paid by Tuesday then she can't learn the material for Saturday's tryouts. I mean come on....when is it going to end? The weekend before I paid $50 for baseball for the two boys.
The ex gets $900 a month in child support plus we pay for 95% of all extras. Including monthly payment for my stepsons instrument, my other stepsons guitar lessons, every time they need shoes or winter coats. We will be the one to buy my stepsons baseball shoes and glove. Every year we have to buy it. I'm just fed up. I know that he has to support his kids but let me make that perfectly clear....WE DO.
So the whole reason I am posting about this tonight is my good ole husband gets mad at me becasue I told my step daughter to put the note in her bookbag for her mom about the money and that they needed by Tuesday in order for her to practice. Well guess what?? She didnt put it in her bookbag. So I tell my hubby ane he tells me to deal with it. I don't think so. What I say around here to his kids don't matter so why should I be responsible for this? He said it was my fault I should have made sure she put it in her bookbag. Come on I tell an almost 10 year old and they can't follow thru. NOT MY FAULT!
He just ticks me off!! He just thinks that we can hand out money like it grows on trees. It's not in the budget this week. Why doesnt he understand that she is just as responsible for those kids as he is? He thinks because I don't work outside the home and that he is the one that brings home the money then he has all the say. Well I pay the bills and I know that it's not in our budget. His ex just leaves it unpaid so that he will feel guilty and pay it. He'd rather make me mad then fight her and make her mad. IT'S BULL!!
Well I guess I'm done ranting tonight. Just another bump in the road of a blended journey.
The ex gets $900 a month in child support plus we pay for 95% of all extras. Including monthly payment for my stepsons instrument, my other stepsons guitar lessons, every time they need shoes or winter coats. We will be the one to buy my stepsons baseball shoes and glove. Every year we have to buy it. I'm just fed up. I know that he has to support his kids but let me make that perfectly clear....WE DO.
So the whole reason I am posting about this tonight is my good ole husband gets mad at me becasue I told my step daughter to put the note in her bookbag for her mom about the money and that they needed by Tuesday in order for her to practice. Well guess what?? She didnt put it in her bookbag. So I tell my hubby ane he tells me to deal with it. I don't think so. What I say around here to his kids don't matter so why should I be responsible for this? He said it was my fault I should have made sure she put it in her bookbag. Come on I tell an almost 10 year old and they can't follow thru. NOT MY FAULT!
He just ticks me off!! He just thinks that we can hand out money like it grows on trees. It's not in the budget this week. Why doesnt he understand that she is just as responsible for those kids as he is? He thinks because I don't work outside the home and that he is the one that brings home the money then he has all the say. Well I pay the bills and I know that it's not in our budget. His ex just leaves it unpaid so that he will feel guilty and pay it. He'd rather make me mad then fight her and make her mad. IT'S BULL!!
Well I guess I'm done ranting tonight. Just another bump in the road of a blended journey.
Friday, March 13, 2009
Every Other Weekend
Well it's another Friday here in our house. What does that mean? It means that we have all 7 kids here and it is loud and noisey and full of fun. This is a rare weekend where we really don't have much planned. The kids will probably have a friend or two or three spend the night at least one of the nights. Hey what's a few more once you have 7? !
This weekend the girls, Bailee and Maddie, and I are going to work on cleaning their room. We need to go thru their clothes and give away clothes that don't fit or they don't wear. Danny is going to hook up a stereo and speakers in the boys room. FUN!!
I need to clean up the basement and go thru some old pictures. Brittany's 16th birthday party is next weekend and my sister wants to make a slideshow and needs some older pictures. So I get to figure out how to scan the pictures onto my computer. That should be interesting.
As of right now it seems like this weekend is going to be a calm weekend just hanging out and getting things done around the house. Hopefully this is how the weekend goes and there are no surprises. Who am I kidding? There are always surprises. Someone is mad, ususally me cause kids can't clean up after themselves or heaven forbid they get off a game system. Oh I'm not going to go off on my tangent about the game system, well at least not in this post. I'll save that for a differen post.
Happy Friday the 13th! Have a good weekend!
This weekend the girls, Bailee and Maddie, and I are going to work on cleaning their room. We need to go thru their clothes and give away clothes that don't fit or they don't wear. Danny is going to hook up a stereo and speakers in the boys room. FUN!!
I need to clean up the basement and go thru some old pictures. Brittany's 16th birthday party is next weekend and my sister wants to make a slideshow and needs some older pictures. So I get to figure out how to scan the pictures onto my computer. That should be interesting.
As of right now it seems like this weekend is going to be a calm weekend just hanging out and getting things done around the house. Hopefully this is how the weekend goes and there are no surprises. Who am I kidding? There are always surprises. Someone is mad, ususally me cause kids can't clean up after themselves or heaven forbid they get off a game system. Oh I'm not going to go off on my tangent about the game system, well at least not in this post. I'll save that for a differen post.
Happy Friday the 13th! Have a good weekend!
Thursday, March 12, 2009
Streching a Dollar
Well as you can imagine with 7 kids our grocery bill is out of control. So a few weeks ago I decided that since we only have one income we need to start saving where we can. Now I obviously can't change much about our living expenses other then telling the kids 1000 times a day to turn off the lights so I decided that I am going to become a coupon crazed momma. I had seen briefly on some talk show about the coupon mom who can go into a store and get over $100 in groceries for $30 and I figure if she can do so can I. I clipped coupons before here and there but never saved more then a few bucks in one trip. So I just typed coupons in my search engine and 100s of sites pop up. So I just start researching and boy did I learn alot. It is amazing how many sites there are about coupons and how to save the most money. I am addicted to finding coupons and saving money. There are moms out there that are saving more then half off their grocery bill. So my goal is by summer to have my grocery bill cut in half.
What I've Learned To Get the Most Savings: I learned to print coupons from the internet. There are a ton of great sites. I found out that I can use more then 1 coupon for an item. I never knew that. How great is that?! On www.couponmom.com you can find the weekly ads for stores in your area and compare shop to get the most out of the store sales and coupons you have. The greatest thing I learned is that you can get coupons on ebay. I got over 400 coupons for $6 and over 300 of those coupons are food and drink coupons. Just search "100 coupons" on ebay and over 29 pages came up. I got 100 coupons for $1.50 free shipping. I can't wait to get all my coupons in the mail this week.
My Latest Grocery Trip: Now since I'm new to the coupon craze this is my first trip to the store where I used a bunch of coupons. I went to Kroger and saved $128 in coupons and my Kroger Plus card, on my receipt it said that was a 40% savings.
I may not get up in the morning and put on a suit. I may not collect a paycheck from a boss that I can deposit in the bank on Friday. But I do have a full-time job, I am a mom of 7 who is the accouantant of The Camp-Robins House, and I have to make that check that my husband does collect go as far as possible.
What I've Learned To Get the Most Savings: I learned to print coupons from the internet. There are a ton of great sites. I found out that I can use more then 1 coupon for an item. I never knew that. How great is that?! On www.couponmom.com you can find the weekly ads for stores in your area and compare shop to get the most out of the store sales and coupons you have. The greatest thing I learned is that you can get coupons on ebay. I got over 400 coupons for $6 and over 300 of those coupons are food and drink coupons. Just search "100 coupons" on ebay and over 29 pages came up. I got 100 coupons for $1.50 free shipping. I can't wait to get all my coupons in the mail this week.
My Latest Grocery Trip: Now since I'm new to the coupon craze this is my first trip to the store where I used a bunch of coupons. I went to Kroger and saved $128 in coupons and my Kroger Plus card, on my receipt it said that was a 40% savings.
I may not get up in the morning and put on a suit. I may not collect a paycheck from a boss that I can deposit in the bank on Friday. But I do have a full-time job, I am a mom of 7 who is the accouantant of The Camp-Robins House, and I have to make that check that my husband does collect go as far as possible.
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